AdobeStock 113893246Tremor and bullying

When suffering from essential tremor at school (or even at work), it is not uncommon for others to notice your condition. With hand tremor causing difficulties with holding certain objects, and with other children around this may cause embarrassment, and some may comment.  

Bullying at school is an issue that many with essential tremor and other disabilities may face. Disablist bullying, as it’s called, can come in many different forms, such as physical and emotional abuse.

According to Childline, bullying can mean different things including:

  • being called names
  • being teased, put down or humiliated
  • having money and other stuff taken
  • having rumours spread about you
  • being ignored and left out
  • being hit, kicked or physically hurt
  • being threatened or intimidated
  • being bullied through your phone or online.

Bullying at school can have devastating effects on your mental health, affect your studies and your life as an adult. However, there are things that you can do to stop it.

Get away from the situation

If you find yourself being confronted verbally or physically, it’s often good to get away from the situation. The bully wants to get attention from you and gets satisfaction from causing harm to others. By walking away calmly, you remove yourself from any conflict and will send the signal that you will not put up with this kind of treatment.

Being assertive

Being assertive, can help boost your esteem and respect from other. It is not about being passive or aggressive. Assertiveness means that you express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view, and respecting the rights and beliefs of others. Tips on how to build assertiveness can found here.

Building your confidence

Childline recommends building your confidence to help stop bullying over time. They advise trying something new for the first time, can make you realise that you can actually do things you didn’t think you could do. Trying small things such as putting your hand up in a lesson to answer a question, can gradually help you feel more confident.

Being positive

Listing some of the things you like about yourself, can help you remind yourself of your good qualities. Complimenting or doing good things for other people can help make you feel better about yourself.

Talking to someone

If you need help, it’s always best to talk to someone rather than bottle it up. Talk to someone you trust such as a friend, your parents or a teacher. Talking to other people can help you see the issue from another perspective and expressing what’s on your mind help you deal with situations better.

Finally, if you need support or advice in confidence Childline can be contacted on 0800 1111, or you can talk to our Child Liaison Officer Kitty on kitty@tremor.org.uk.